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Jan. 2nd, 2018 11:40 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
nattalieI wish I could have social skills to know how to interact with other people. Some of you who read my journal know there is a coworker who make me feel uncomfortable and harassed. I usually complain because he's smelly (because lack of hygiene) and very noisy. I'm not mean, I know this is because his lack of selfsteem and depression. He has a lot of destructive habits, like smoking, drinking and eating. I think he's around 300 pounds. He got divorced 3 years ago and he has a little daughter. He's 44 years old and his life is falling off.
He likes talking about himself and about what he did last night to everybody and he also will come to me time to time to talk about his personal problems. I try to stay away from him, because I don't like some of his attitudes and as I said, I feel he harass me sometimes. But I also wonder if this is not just a bad way to get attention, then I feel sorry.
I told him he should try therapy, but he never want. Many times he invited me to his house or to have dinner together but I never accepted. I don't feel comfortable with him, I don't want to be his friend, but I can't help trying to fix people.
For New Year I sent to him an email with the book of my diet, and I wrote few words saying if he doesn't start to love himself his daughter will learn to be as destructive as he is, and there is nothing sadder than seeing your daughter destroying herself with bad habits and bad relationships. Today I got his reply, he said those are so far the only words he got for new year who touched his heart, and he add although he's rough he feels affection for me. And I don't know how to feel or think about that because I can't know what are the reasons why he is like he is with me. A "thank you" was enough. It was a mistake to try to help him? I hope this don't put me in another uncomfortable situation.
He likes talking about himself and about what he did last night to everybody and he also will come to me time to time to talk about his personal problems. I try to stay away from him, because I don't like some of his attitudes and as I said, I feel he harass me sometimes. But I also wonder if this is not just a bad way to get attention, then I feel sorry.
I told him he should try therapy, but he never want. Many times he invited me to his house or to have dinner together but I never accepted. I don't feel comfortable with him, I don't want to be his friend, but I can't help trying to fix people.
For New Year I sent to him an email with the book of my diet, and I wrote few words saying if he doesn't start to love himself his daughter will learn to be as destructive as he is, and there is nothing sadder than seeing your daughter destroying herself with bad habits and bad relationships. Today I got his reply, he said those are so far the only words he got for new year who touched his heart, and he add although he's rough he feels affection for me. And I don't know how to feel or think about that because I can't know what are the reasons why he is like he is with me. A "thank you" was enough. It was a mistake to try to help him? I hope this don't put me in another uncomfortable situation.